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Fear of Losing Control

Galeano's abrazo "Fear" speaks about the universal emotion of fear. Fear is such a basic concept that it cannot be easily defined or explained but everyone understands and has experienced it. Fear is a universal human struggle. Overcoming fear and gaining freedom, whether that freedom is political, spiritual or personal, is one of the greatest accomplishments of the human life. At sometime or another we are all prisoners of fear, we are all helpless because fear seizes and binds us, making it impossible for us to pursue happiness and dreams. Overcoming fear does not necessarily mean defeating it. Fear can serve as a great incentive for action and has driven individuals to some of the greatest accomplishments of their lives.

Fear has come into my own life many times. It has had a profound effect on how I have lived in the past, how I live today and how I strive to improve my life in the future. Every day I am confronted with fears and every day I struggle to overcome their paralyzing effects.

My biggest fear is the fear of losing control. I fear what I cannot control. I obsess about controlling the outcome of every situation. I am petrified of allowing a situation to come back and haunt me in the future. I believe that happiness and security lies in today and the actions that I take today. My fear is controlling itself. My fear makes me prone to episodes of depression, anxiety and frequent panic attacks. My fear is actually associated with Generalized Anxiety Disorder. My fear has considerably shaped my personality and my dreams, and probably will continue to my entire life. Some days my fear lies dormant and other days it rages, leaving me feeling like I have lost control of my own life.

I have learned to overcome my fear of losing control by learning to let myself lose control of situations and learning that it is impossible to control everything. Learning to let go of situations has helped me to reduce stress and has brought me much happiness. I look at a situations and ask myself what I can do about them. If the answer is nothing or very little, then I make myself push that situation out of my mind and concentrate on another problem that I can solve. By not focusing on controlling every single aspect, I have made my life more flexible and more open to different experiences. I have learned to appreciate surpises for what they are just another one of life's little pleasures. For situations that I come up with a specific answer of what I can do, I act on my solution and then learn to accept the fact that I did everything I could.

I have learned to live with my fear by embracing my fear and accepting it as a part of who I am. By facing my fear of losing control I have learned to control my own life instead of letting fear run it.

 

Fear

Fear of Flying
Fear of Failure
Fear of Losing Control
Fear of Sharks

 

Serentity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The strength to change those I can,

And the wisdom to know the difference.

The Serenity Prayer has often been a source of comfort for me. When I begin to feel like I must control a situation or feel as if I am losing control I repeat it to myself.

Edvard Munch: The Scream

 

Losing Control

Feeling alone
Wanting to just be
Withdrawing
Within myself
Can't be bothered with people
Shutting myself off
Losing control
My emotions
Spiraling downhill
How do I break the cycle
To find myself again

(c)Chrissy Creations

 

Sites with information about Generalized Anxiety Disorder:

http://www.bu.edu/anxiety/gad.html

http://www.anxietynetwork.com/gahome.html

 

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